Healing yourself through Compassion, Love, Forgiveness and Non-Judgment...

Healing yourself through compasion, love, forgiveness and non-judgment is about developing the necessary tools to give some of the love you offer to your loved ones back to yourself. There are two familiar sayings amongst healers: “From within without” and “You cannot love another unless you love yourself”. These two quotes are popular because they ring true by accurately describing the process of acknowledging and coming to terms with the process of releasing past events which have embedded debilitating trauma into our psyche.  It all begins with Compassion and Self Love… Many people are simply too hard on themselves when they feel they have fallen short of personal expectations.  As such, we unknowingly repeat the same stories and dramas over extended periods of time in both our emotional and physical lives.  Compassion for your own journey of self discovery is essential to healing the disappointments life will inevitably send your way.

We are all here to learn from our mistakes and from the perceived transgression of others towards ourselves. Through self compassion you begin to develop acceptance of yourself and during the process, which may be quite draining and painful, you are able to more deeply understand the life issues you are experiencing during your particular life journey. Compassion starts a chain reaction of personal healing.  Soon we begin to like ourselves and shortly after we are open to loving ourselves.  Once we turn this corner we are on our way to healing many emotional and physical wounds, maladies and illnesses. Forgiveness creates a “Different Set of Eyes” When you reach the internal state of compassion and love for the self, you enter into a new phase of the self healing called forgiveness. Here you begin to look at things with what I call a “different set of eyes”. This superior vantage point permits you to see the truth in all things.  Just like standing at the top of a mountain, you now understand where events are coming from and where they are going.

Now you will start to develop the ability to witness and observe yourself in a way which allows you to let go of negative experiences and embrace healthier choice making.  Healthier choices will undoubtedly allow for happier personal relationships, less argumentation and more responsiveness in other areas of your life.  The Power of Non-Judgment… Have you heard of the term, “The whole is greater than the sum of the parts?”  Combining the potent forces of inner forgiveness and the journey of self love creates the most freeing aspect of all in terms of self growth and healing…Non-Judgment.  When you do not judge others, you are allowing yourself to understand the short comings of others and to understand that they like you are also on a journey of discovery.  Like you, their experiences can have the same positive molding and shaping effects that you chose to experience by doing the necessary work on yourself. 

Permitting yourself the have compassion, love, forgiveness and non-judgment for yourself allows you to become a living, physical example of the words “From within without” and “You cannot love another unless you love yourself”. As such, you are also now able to set others free on their journey in a more assistive way and with little or no angst on your own behalf.  Setting others Free… One of the most beautiful aspects of this journey is that it brings clarity to your personal relationships because you are able to identify what viewpoints and processes are out of balance in others.  Not only will you no longer participate in their personal dramas but you are in a better position to impart this knowledge and journey of discovery on to others.  Remember you cannot force your will upon others but only make the information available to them with the understanding that they must be willing to do similar work on themselves in order to lead happier and healthier lives. Namaste, San Dan Yi